Is it possible to speak truth 100% of the time ,No, especially when you are in love. Love makes you do things you hate !! Ironical it is as it sounds ....
When you love someone you tend to start lying and this frequency of lying is actually directly propotional to the intensity of love. Is it ? Or if it is, its not love ? what is it ?
More you love someone more you care about not hurting him/her and more frequently you praise ,appreciate stuff that might not exactly be of your liking ,But who said that being in love means you like everything about the other person and if this is the case ,is there a need for lying ?
Love that is expressed through lies is no love at all ,because its not sustainable , you cant force yourself to like what you dislike
Some would say , No they dont lie , they say what they feel , but if its just about feeling , then feelings are ephemeral ,they change and hence its nothing but an expression that holds true only for a split second when its said.
A truth remains a truth ,no matter what , today and tomorrow and thus if you dont stick or lose belief in what you said before then it wasnt an expression of love ,but a momentary feeling or a lie said to express your love.
The irony is more you are crafted in such lies, more is your love (on paper) !! But I guess that is not what is meant when one says "I love you" ......
Saturday, November 07, 2009
Love vs Truth
Posted by Sudhanshu at 12:08 PM
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You my friend have built a very complex web of questions in this particular post. Its true that any relationship cannot and should not be based on a heap of lies. But when it comes to simple things like, the dress your partner is wearing, or the food she likes, one could avoid being bitterly honest about the situation. Its virtually difficult if not impossible to find an alter ego,someone 100% similar to you. And love is all about loving the differences that two people have and still being able to stay together. You start liking the stuff she likes, you start appreciating things that you always disliked. Isn't that what love is all about?
Yes ,its love when you start liking the stuff your partner likes, but its not love when you are not being honest .... as i said then its not an expression of love !!
extremely complicated post -- and well thought out.. so, first my kudos for your writing.. but now coming to my views :)...
every relation is a drama which needs a lot of rehearsal.. apna hindi movies hi le le, those hard core reality docu movies kitno ko achchi lagti hai? but a light hearted 'happies endings' wala thing attracts most -- coz we don't want tension.. aur kya fayda in building tension by being too frank and too honest.. there are 1000s of things happening around which we don't like and there's this person who cares for us -- and hurting that person just for the sake of being truthful isn't wise (please note Gandhiji didn't have a successful married life :P)
yes, drop hints -- "i guess you look better in the red dress than the blue one" but not like "u look pathetic in blue".. and to an extent, relation also calls for adjustment right? are we able to appreciate if someone brutally tells us that u look bad in this, don't do that, this is weird.. etc etc.. and yeah, i agree with chirag, love is also about falling in love with things u don't like, coz the partner whom u love like them.. it's not about losing self-identity in this case, it's cementing ur relation..
ok, i am sure my comment is far bigger than ur post :D.. so, i am topic but i like the topic of human relations, so got carried away.. hehe..
once again... nice post!!
मुह की बात सुने हर कोई, दिल के दर्द को जाने कौन? आवाजों के बाज़ारों में खामोशी पचाने कौन?
@Souvik : As i replied to chirag, I agree you got to appreciate , change yourself acc to your partner .... All I meant was , u shud stick to what u say, if u find her beautiful den only say that, otherwise dont, cos love built upon false appreciation is not good
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